Why positive thinking doesnt work

I now aim to meet each of my thoughts with love and compassion. Love trumps fear every single time. This compassion eliminates any desire for me to judge or change my thinking.

All of my thoughts are now arbitrary until I decide which ones will best serve me and the greater good. This fear of a negative thought gives birth to the desire to abolish negative thinking while simultaneously attempting to control our thoughts. A thought becomes a thought, no more and no less. In this non-judgmental state, we develop compassion for our thoughts, regardless of the contents.

This compassion breeds a whole new level of understanding that makes one wonder why they felt the need to judge, fear, or change their thoughts in the first place. The mind works like a projector. Sure, we can direct the film through editing the speed, colour, and sound, but what we cannot do is create the film. This remains a mystery. This mystery is what religion, mystics, and spiritual leaders try to put into words that which cannot be described with words.

An even more important distinction to recognize is that we have control over which thoughts we choose to believe. Who told us to choose a certain thought? To believe a certain thought?

Most of these thoughts are regurgitated and go unnoticed, none of these thoughts were placed in our head by choice, wrap your head around that.

Similarly, if you were presented with a negative thought and I told you to choose the positive one, could you do it? We have zero control over initiating the process. I think this is where the distinction between choosing a thought and creating a thought really needs to be distinguished.

If we had the power to create one then we surely would. Instead, we wait until one pops into our head. As fascinating as the mind is, it is limited to only one thought at a time. I understand that this is a hard concept to grasp, and one that can completely rock your world. That all you have control of is which thoughts you choose to give attention. Freedom lay not with judgement but with non-judgement.

A mind that condemns a thought due to a negative judgement is not a free mind. This is a mind that is on edge, constantly on the lookout for the enemy. A mind that fears harm upon itself is not a free mind, this is a paranoid mind.

A liberated mind does not judge itself; it accepts what arises and understands that it does not need to attempt to control the uncontrollable. When they do, label them simply as energy in your body. One of my favorite ways to release negative thoughts is through visualization. At the end of a hard day, disconnect and avoid taking work home with you by seeing your unhelpful reactions gathered in a backpack that you take off and leave in the corner of your office.

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Share on facebook. Share on twitter. Share on linkedin. Share on email. Does positive thinking work? Turn your sensitivity into a strength and regain your confidence at work. First Name. You have to take action to get what you want. For example, she might have asked her boyfriend for the necklace for her birthday. Or she might think about some extra work she could do in order to afford the necklace.

Positive thinking will allow you to know that you deserve the item and to know that you can get it. You might not know exactly how you're going to get it but you do know that you can take steps towards your goal in some way and be open to any opportunities you see along the way. Positive thinking means that you know you can get what you want but also that you're willing to take action along the way.

Then, what are you really focusing on? If you continue to only focus on what you don't want then you feel bad. You'll be sad, angry, frustrated or maybe even bored because you don't know what you want to move towards. You're stuck just feeling negative. When you notice that you're feeling bad, ask yourself what are you thinking about? If you're thinking about what you don't want then turn it around and ask yourself what you do want.

This way, you suddenly change your mindset into one of action and feeling more positive about things. You'll suddenly see how there are steps you can take to move past your current situation.

Your thoughts will create your own reality because you'll be looking for the evidence that backs up your belief. You'll see what you expect to see. This is another one I hear a lot. If you think positive thoughts then nothing should ever go wrong and everything should always go smoothly. It's a fact of life that obstacles are going to appear at various times. With positive thinking, you'll also know that it isn't personal against you. It's just an event and you get to choose whether it's good, bad, or neutral.

The Law of Attraction has made some people think that positive thinking is like that life preserver they seek which will save them from their life of misery. They believe that if they can just always monitor their thoughts and only think nice things then their life will be one of pure bliss with constant sunshine and roses.

You're going to be disappointed if you believe this one. It doesn't matter how positive you are, unexpected things are going to happen. Delays will occur, disappointments will happen, people will get sick, and you won't always get what you want.